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Make It A Point To Make Someone’s Day

Posted by on Dec 5, 2016 in Blog Posts | 2 comments

Here’s an interesting exercise for you. Head out to do your errands, drive to work, or get to school and make it a point to make someone else’s day today. It could be something as simple as giving someone a big smile, have a meaningful conversation with a person who’s feeling a little lost or lonely, or it could be buying lunch for the homeless person on the corner. It doesn’t matter what you do, but do something today to make someone else’s day.

How does that make sure feel? It’s a pretty good feeling, isn’t it? It seems that a big key to our own happiness lies in making people around us happy and helping others. When you start to think about it, it makes sense, doesn’t it? We are social creatures who have to work together to truly thrive. It is only logical then that helping those around us has an internal rewards system built in. In other words, our happiness goes up as we improve the lives of those around us.

You can see that a great strategy to increase our own happiness is to cheer up those around us. Not only will it help make you feel better and happier, you’ll be able to share that big smile on your face which can make someone else’s day as well. While it can be hard to do this kind of stuff when you’re feeling sad, those are the times you need to force yourself to do it the most.  Simply performing a selfless act increases the happiness you feel and instills a feeling of pride for helping someone else.

As with many of the other strategies we’ve been discussing, the key to making this work is to make it a habit. If it becomes an ingrained part of your daily routine, you’ll automatically go out of your way to help others even when (and especially when) you may not feel like it.   Give yourself that little extra boost, infuse your with happiness  and go out of your way for the benefit of someone else.

3rewf5rp4jo-evan-kirbyTo get your habit started, think of a few different things you can do to make someone’s day. It doesn’t have to be anything big or complicated. Instead, focus on small acts of kindness that you can do every single day. Bless your loved ones and complete strangers who look like they could use a little cheering up with this kindness. Help someone unload groceries, fix a meal for a neighbor who just had a new baby, or bring your spouse coffee in bed when he or she is having a hard time. Each of these small acts of kindness will start to make a huge difference in the world around you and improve your sense of happiness and joy.

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff – Savor It

Posted by on Nov 29, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

“Don’t sweat the small stuff” they say.  Think about it, it’s easy to get caught up in all the little things that cause stress and ruins our day. Frankly, it’s not worth wasting energy on things that happen on a daily basis that we don’t like. Sure, we could get upset over the fact that someone else took the last good parking spot, or that the grocery store is out of our favorite brand of cereal.  Alternatively, we can choose to not make a big deal out of it and use that small, fairly insignificant stuff to practice seeing the positive side of things. Having to park further away means we get to exercise a little and enjoy the fresh air and sunshine for a couple of minutes while we stroll into the office. Not being able to find our favorite cereal means we get a chance to try something new that we may like even better.

There are often two sides to any situation and we have a choice in how we look at it. Make it a point to look on the bright side and watch your happiness improve. Then take it a step further and start to really pay attention to all the good stuff around you. Stop and smell the roses, if you will.

fugfjrw18jm-jason-briscoeI’m serious. There’s value in noticing all the positive things around you. The little things around you will put a smile on your face if you take the time to notice them. Make it a habit to spend some of your downtime this week savoring the small stuff. Notice how your cup of coffee smells, how it warms your hands on a cool morning, and how it tastes. Pay attention to the birds outside your window and notice how watching them and their antics around the birdfeeder makes you smile. Appreciate the next hug you receive.  In other words, savor the small things that make you happy. It may not be much, but it all adds up to a very happy life. Just take the time to notice.

Over the coming weeks, practice noticing and savoring the small stuff. Don’t let a small stress bring you down. Instead, make it a goal to find something positive about everything that happens to you throughout the day. Pay particular attention to all the little things that make you smile and acknowledge them. It won’t take long before you feel this simple little exercise making a big difference in your overall outlook on life.

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Why Happiness Is A Choice You Make Every Day

Posted by on Nov 21, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

photo-1466689193967-9cf2e2a2b994Are you a glass half full or half empty person? This is a great example to illustrate that there are often two sides to any story and that you have a choice in how you view things. And that choice, in turn, determines how happy you feel. Happiness then becomes a choice you make every single day.

You can choose to see the glass as half empty, focus on the fact that you’re almost done drinking that nice glass of ice tea. With that attitude, you’re more likely to feel a little depressed about your tea. If on the other hand, you focus on the fact that the glass is still half full and you have plenty of yummy, ice cold tea to sip on, your mood improves and you’re increasing your happiness.

When you look at it that way, happiness really is a conscious choice you make, at least to a point. From what I’ve been reading 40% off your happiness is directly affected by how you think and how you choose to feel. And that’s what the next 30 days are all about. Over the coming days, I will post here on the blog daily with tips, advice, and strategies to help you make a conscious decision to be happier. Ready to join me?

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Happiness is a choice.

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A 30 day happiness challenge. Am I crazy?

Posted by on Nov 10, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

Original artwork by Nahille Natour

Original artwork by Nahille Natour

Yes, I might be crazy but we are entering what can be a difficult time of year.  Between Thanksgiving and New Year’s we have more obligations and more on our to-do list than at any other time of the year.  So, I created this happiness challenge to help us focus on happiness and perhaps even the beauty of this season rather than all of the chores.

Happiness is a choice, and a choice we make every single day, so I want to challenge you to make it a habit. Beginning on November 21, 2016, I want to inspire and encourage you to make a choice each morning to be happier.

It takes time and daily conscious decisions to change habits and how we approach life. That’s where the challenge comes into play. The idea is that you have a daily reminder via email each day to help you remember to make that choice. Of course, there will also be plenty of helpful content on the topic of happiness in the form of a new daily blog post. By the end of the challenge, I hope you will have formed new habits, new ways of thinking, and new ways to look at each situation as it arises. With a little shift in thinking and perception, you can craft a happier, more fulfilling life for yourself.  I sincerely hope this challenge will help you get there.

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The Importance of Self-Care

Posted by on Apr 4, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

I have found that self care is one of the first things I give up when I am stressed and overworked.  If you are not thinking “bad idea,” you should be!

 

Self-care is not about self-indulgence, it's about self-preservation. (1)We must nurture our spirit, mind, and body to remain compassionate and effective healers.  Losing that edge doesn’t cause us to give bad care, but it does make us seem insensitive and detached.  Of course, this perception will ultimately affect compliance and the robustness of our care.

 

Today, I want to move beyond the big picture self care items you are thinking about (exercise, healthy eating, etc.) to two simple, quick techniques you can use to improve your day-to-day practice of self care.

 

Technique #1: A breath of fresh air

 

Name an item that immediately anchors you to a calm feeling.  This can be an object, a photo, a quote, etc.  I would encourage you to incorporate this item into your workspace and to create a ritual around it.  If you have multiple work areas, perhaps there are multiple anchors you can integrate into those spaces.

 

As you go through your day, look to this anchor to provide a calming sensation when it is needed.  Focus for a few seconds and allow your spirit to be soothed.  Let tranquility replace the other feeling(s) you have at that time.  This breath of fresh air will help you overcome adversity when you need it most.

 

Technique #2: Can I buy you a drink?    

 

The afternoon tends to be the toughest time of the day for me, and incorporating this practice has really helped to refresh my mood and reenergize my spirit.

 

Pick your favorite beverage and take a few minutes to do nothing but drink that beverage.  (I know you are busy, so set a timer if it helps.)

 

When I say do nothing else, I really mean it.  Be mindful of how the beverage feels in your hand.  Pay attention to the aroma.  Notice how it feels in your mouth.

 

It will be tempting to multi-task, but don’t.  Make self-renewal your only task for these few moments.  You’ll be surprised that it only takes a couple of minutes to feel restored.

 

In the comment section, please share the self care routines that are part of your day.  I’d love to hear from you!

 

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Reconnecting With Your Passion

Posted by on Mar 22, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

Is there something you were once passionate about that now makes you groan whenever it comes up?

 

Maybe it’s work or maybe a favorite hobby.

 

At one time, there was something deeply fulfilling about that task, but now it is dull; and quite frankly, its importance has become fragile and weak.   It’s certainly not easy to remain enthusiastic, but reconnecting to that passion allows for a more fulfilling, satisfying life.

 

Copyright Inspiring Balance, LLC 2016

Copyright Inspiring Balance, LLC 2016

In my case, that “something” was work.  I had wanted to be a physician since I was 6 years old and I am now an obstetrician/gynecologist.  I reached my ultimate goal.  In time, what started as a passion, actually a life purpose, eventually became a chore.

 

In fact, I distinctly remember a delivery where I felt bored, disconnected, and like I was completing a mundane task.  It took that delivery for me to realize that I needed to make a change and recommit to my passion or I would essentially lose everything that I had worked for.

 

As I sought to restore my love of medicine, I found three points of wisdom to be central to my recovery.

 

The first was to believe it was possible for me to love medicine again.  If you don’t believe it can be true, then it never will be.

 

I started by making a conscious choice to enter each day with positivity and happiness.  Let me tell you, that was easier said than done.  What helped to solidify this perspective of happiness was incorporating a gratitude ritual into my day.

 

Not everyone gets to share a deeply personal, beautiful moment with others on a regular basis, but I did.  Even when I felt the least passionate about medicine, gratitude for my patients, skills, and education remained.

 

The second thing I did was to reconnect with my values.   Values are principles or qualities of life that are worthy and are intrinsic to that person.  Values that are not honored lead to internal tension or dissonance which over time, leads to a detachment from our purpose or passion.

 

There were key values that I was not honoring, which contributed to my unhappiness.  Learning is a deeply important value of mine, and at that time I was so busy with work that I wasn’t fulfilling that value.  Something as simple as taking a class or developing a skill would have been enough to satisfy this value.

 

A second value that I was not honoring was my value of fun.  I was not consistently creating space for play outside of work.  Some would call this work/life balance.  I needed time to disconnect and relax.

 

I know it sounds simple, but silly laughter and childlike wonder rekindles my spirit and allows me to return to the seriousness of medicine.  I had to recognize that I must create this for myself when it didn’t appear spontaneously.

 

Last but not least, I wasn’t honoring my personal needs, and self care is a hugely important value for me.   This takes me into the third and final tip that I have for reconnecting to your passion: Take care of yourself.  You are just as important as your patients, your children, your family.  Give to yourself what you give to them.

 

Make time for meditation, meal planning, exercise, spirituality, journaling.  Keep these at the center of your daily routine.  I had to remember that I am important.  It was worthwhile to spend time on myself.  I couldn’t be a good physician, much less a happy, fulfilled physician if I didn’t put myself first at least part of the time.

 

Reconnecting with your passion and with joy can be very simple but it takes work.  Believe it is possible.  Reconnect with your values and remember that YOU are important.

 

I’d love to hear how you stay connected with your passion!  Please comment below.

 

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Try these 2 daily practices!

Posted by on Mar 7, 2016 in Blog Posts | 2 comments

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Most of the people I meet strive to be the best version of themselves each day, but sometimes life gets in the way and we stray from our ideal behaviors, goals, and values.   Have you ever felt this way?

I have made two daily practices an integral part of my routine to help me stay on track to be my best self.  Those practices are setting a daily intention and incorporating daily gratitude.  So, what does that look like?

I start each day by setting my daily intention.  An intention is essentially your way of being for that day or your mood for the day.  In other words, what space will your thoughts occupy for the day?

Today’s intention was business growth, and I have approached each of my activities from that mindset.  It’s helped propel me to write this post and work on my social media pages, and I gave my business card to the dean of my alma mater hoping it will lead to a speaking engagement.  Intentions can be quite powerful!

The second habit is gratitude, and it’s how I end my day.  Expressing gratitude has been closely linked with increased happiness in multiple studies, and who couldn’t use a little more happiness?  You can practice gratitude in several ways, but a popular way is to write in a gratitude journal.  Here are a few tips to create an effective one:

  • Keep negative thoughts and words away from your journal.
  • Be creative. You don’t have to write each entry; you can use photos, tickets, receipts.
  • The beauty of gratitude journals is their details. Elaborate on whatever experience you’re writing about. Savor the feelings associated with the experience.  Don’t just use a quick list.
  • Don’t hurry or just go through the motions. Make a conscious decision to create a great entry each time.
  • Focus on people, not things.
  • Uncover gratitude in unexpected moments.

Last but not least, share your gratitude with others!  We could all use a daily dose of happiness!

If you are looking to establish new habits, contact me for a personal consultation.  I’d love to hear from you!

Does your life feel like a storm? Take these three steps to reclaim control.

Posted by on Feb 17, 2016 in Blog Posts | 0 comments

To Do List chores, tasks, work and projects written on a message board for an overburdened or stressed out lifeHave you ever felt like you were living in the eye of a tornado, with parts of your life spinning out of control around you?  What does it feel like to be in that place?

For me it is chaotic, uncontrolled, and disorganized.  When I am in this space, nothing moves forward and my goals aren’t accomplished.  It’s a miserable place!  So, what do you do to stop that feeling?

Step back and visualize what you want.

Find a quiet place and assume a relaxing position.  Take in a few cleansing breaths and clear your mind of the chaos that is currently occupying your thoughts.

Visualize how you want your life to look.  Transport yourself to this new reality.

Really experience the calm and order that you see.  Spend some time here and then take some time to write out all the action steps it will take to get there.

Prioritize.

You’ve probably got a pretty sizeable list of action steps, which can quickly lead to feeling overwhelmed and slipping back into that state of chaos. Don’t go there! Instead, the next step is to prioritize.

Look at the action items you have written down and decide which are the most important.  Also try to find small steps that you can quickly accomplish.  This will provide some much needed motivation.

When you look at your action plan, are there any items you can delegate?  That may be one way to make progress without spending your own sweat equity!

Lastly, as you plan each day, pick a few of these items as action steps for that day. I always aim to complete three priority items on my to-do list each day.  Anything that gets done above and beyond the three main things is gravy.

Plan breaks.

There are numerous studies showing that we are more productive if we take breaks.  So, I recommend scheduling a mix of both short and longer breaks during your day.  I also recommend looking at your weekly plan and finding time for relaxation and fun!

Regaining control of your life is one of the first steps towards achieving work/life balance.  Take care to ensure that you are leaving time to connect with friends, family, and yourself.

I’d love to hear your thoughts!  Just submit a comment below and remember I am always available for a personal consultation.

 

 

Five reasons why resolutions fail

Posted by on Jan 13, 2015 in Blog Posts | 2 comments

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It happens every year.  January 1st comes around and everyone is buzzing about their New Year’s resolutions.  Have you decided what your resolutions will be for 2015?  Before reading this post, take a moment to jot down your resolution(s).When you’re ready, I’m going to show you why the top resolutions fail and how to make yours better.

A Google search for “top resolutions” reveals very common themes.  Talk to your friends and you’ll hear these same ambitions.  In fact, you probably also heard them last year because many people have stopped pursuing their goal(s) by February.  So, how do you make resolutions attainable?  I’ve grouped similar ambitions to show you how.

Problem:  The goal is vague.

 

The first resolution to tackle is the one that sounds like a command.  Lose weight.  Diet.  Eat healthier.  Are these admirable goals?  Absolutely.  So what’s missing?  These statements are vague and good goals are specific and measurable.  Maybe the resolution should say, “I will lose 10 pounds by April 1st”?  Alternatively, “I will eliminate processed food from my diet and I will eat 5-8 servings of fruits and vegetables daily.”  These are not only commendable but also clearly defined and measurable aspirations.

Many of the top resolutions are vague.  They include: volunteer, manage stress, manage debt and save money. How would you fix them?

Problem:  Where is the motivation?

 

It is also helpful to note the importance of achieving a resolution.  This helps you confirm why you have set the goal and what you will achieve.  How motivating is “quit smoking” or “drink less”?  The resolution, “I will quit smoking by March 1st to improve my overall health and increase my longevity” is much more compelling and serves as a catalyst for change.

How would you improve the common resolution, “get organized,” so that it confers deeper meaning and persuasion?

Problem: The goal does not resonate.

 

“Learn something new” is a popular resolution.  I’m sure you have already identified that this goal is vague and the importance to the individual is not conveyed.  Another missing piece from this goal is resonance.  Develop your plan so that the intent of the action speaks from the heart, showing that the goal strikes a deep chord.  For example: “I will learn to meditate so that I can manage stress and remain present and mindful in my daily life.”  How’s that for resonance?

How can you make the resolution, “enjoy life/spend more time with family,” more resonant?

Problem: Where’s the excitement?

 

Who doesn’t want to go on an adventure?  Of course, we all define adventure differently, but we all want new experiences.  That’s why “travel to new places” is another top resolution.  That statement is boring; spice it up!  Where do you want to go?  How do you want to get there?  What will you do?  Who will you go with? When will you go?  Include those answers in your resolutions and you are sure to add a zing of excitement to it!

Can you add excitement to each of your resolutions?

Problem: Is the goal relevant or realistic?

 

“Get a better education” and “get a better job” are the last resolutions we will tackle.  Start by asking yourself, is this goal realistic or relevant?  If the answer is yes, include that information in the resolution.  Will you take classes after hours in order to maintain your current job?  If not, what source(s) of income will you put into place to support yourself as a full-time student?  Is it realistic to pursue a different job at this time?  What impact does the current market or economy have on your goal?  Don’t forget to make the goal as specific as possible.

There you have it: five different ways to improve your resolutions so that they become specific, resonant, and exciting ambitions!  Now that you have a better list of goals, what actions will you put into place to achieve them?  A coach can provide the focus, growth and accountability to reach your goals.  Contact me to make 2015 YOUR best year!

My best wishes to you for a fulfilling, successful and balanced year.

“All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them.” — Walt Disney

My gift to you …

Posted by on Dec 24, 2014 in Blog Posts | 6 comments

 

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As you run around making your list and checking it twice this season, are you ever tempted to purchase something wonderful for yourself?  What if I told you I have just the right gift that won’t cost you a dime?  Intrigued yet?

 

Busy Time of Year

This time of year is full of lights, decorations, friends, and festivities.  There are a surplus of personal and professional responsibilities and engagements this time of year.  Businesses are busy reaching end-of-year goals, and the healthcare environment is not immune to this end-of-year surge in workload.  Those in surgical specialties know that their schedule is jam-packed with cases at this time of year.  In fact, when I was in private practice, it felt like patients would come in and request surgeries as if they were ordering off a menu.  Our primary care colleagues aren’t immune either.  They are inundated with the illnesses of the season including flu and RSV.  The question always becomes: how do you maintain balance in your life when just about everything is busier than usual?  We have all felt this way at some point!

This is where my gift comes in to play.  It’s an astoundingly simple mantra that you can carry with you throughout the year.  YOU ARE IMPORTANT.   Take a moment to realize what that phrase gives you.  Being important is empowering.  It keeps you at choice.  Think about it, if you have the power of choice in your life because you are important, the troubles associated with this busy time of year crumble at your feet.  Yes, the Christmas party is important, but you are important enough to choose if it fits into your life right now.  Yes, overbooking those patients into your schedule is a blessing to those individuals seeking your help, but you are important enough to choose to take care of yourself as well.

 

Unique Formula For Balance

Through trial and a lot of error, I have finally found a unique formula to achieve balance in my life.  When I am balanced, I have a sense that I am getting everything that I want and I am also completing the important items on my to-do list.  Balance is not static.  It is an ebb and flow, giving a little here and cutting back a little there.  Each individual has their own equilibrium and we can discover your unique formula through one-on-one coaching.  Balance requires choice.  It also requires that you revitalize your mind, body and spirit.  When I realized that I am important and I can make choices in service of my wellbeing, balance finally became a personal reality.

Working with physicians and healthcare providers through times of imbalance sincerely makes my heart sore and my soul tingle.  This healer has found strength and revitalization through coaching and I am so excited to share it with others.  ​My life purpose is to inspire others to work towards fulfillment and balance. So, during the holiday season and throughout the years to come, please accept my gift and always remember, YOU ARE IMPORTANT.

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